One day I wrote her name upon the strand,
But came the waves and washed it away:
Again I wrote it with a second hand,
But came the tide, and made my pains his prey.
Vain man, said she, that dost in vain assay
A mortal thing so to immortalize!
For I myself shall like to this decay,
But came the waves and washed it away:
Again I wrote it with a second hand,
But came the tide, and made my pains his prey.
Vain man, said she, that dost in vain assay
A mortal thing so to immortalize!
For I myself shall like to this decay,
And eek my name be wiped out likewise.
Not so (quoth I), let baser things devise
To die in dust, but you shall live by fame:
My verse your virtues rare shall eternize,
And in the heavens write your glorious name;
Where, whenas death shall all the world subdue,
My verse your virtues rare shall eternize,
And in the heavens write your glorious name;
Where, whenas death shall all the world subdue,
Our love shall live, and later life renew
--Edmund Spenser
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5 Times You're Sexy to Men
By Genevieve Field (Glamour)
...and don't even know it! Read the research on attraction — then put it to work.
A few weeks ago, I was sitting at a local cafe with my head in a book when my friend Violet (not her real name, but her real favorite flower) happened by. "What are you reading?" she asked. I showed her the cover: Do Gentlemen Really Prefer Blondes? Bodies, Behavior, and Brains — The Science Behind Sex, Love, & Attraction, by Jena Pincott. "It's about what makes women sexy to men," I told her. She slid into the chair across from me and leaned forward, hooked. "So?" she said. "What does make women sexy to men?"
Violet is, by any standards, easy on the eyes — petite but (ahem) stacked, with olive skin and long, butterscotch hair. And yet, at 33, my friend has had only two brief relationships and a long string of first-date flops. Thanks to the intriguing, sometimes maddening volume in my hand, I felt I could help her. "Let me tell you the easiest trick in the book," I said.
The science of sex has long been pondered by Mensa types in white lab coats, but lately there's been a surge of studies on attraction. In the name of helping us understand exactly why, how and how much we turn one another on (or off), researchers have scanned our brains, analyzed the pitch of our voices and counted our orgasmic contractions. For her book, Pincott, a science writer, exhaustively re-viewed these studies and translated the findings into straight-shooting (if occasionally too man-pandering for my liking) advice. With Pincott's help — I now have her on speed dial — I've culled the most valuable lessons every woman can learn about what makes her undeniably sexy to a man. It came down to these everyday moments.
When You Lock Eyes and Smile
The head-smackingly simple flirting fact I passed on to Violet that day: According to researchers at Scotland's University of Aberdeen Face Research Lab, when you smile genuinely and lock eyes with a guy, he finds your face markedly more attractive than if you look at him without smiling. Minutes after I imparted this wisdom, I watched Violet spot a cute guy, make I-dare-you-to-look-away eye contact and flash him a fearless grin. The man practically walked backward out the door, then lingered at the window, fiddling with his cell phone, all the while stealing glances at my friend. "It worked!" Violet crowed.
When You Use Girly Body Language
In a now classic 1985 study, psychologist Monica Moore, Ph.D., of Webster University in St. Louis, showed that a successful seductress will send her desired guy more than 35 "courtship signals," including hair-flipping, back-arching and lip-licking. Whether or not they were good-looking, the women in Moore's study who turned on their body language were approached by an average of four men, while non-flirts, even gorgeous ones, weren't approached by any at all.
So what's a shy woman to do? Flip and lick even if it feels ridiculous? Remembering how awkward I once was coming on to guys in clubs and bars, I asked Moore how I could have gotten better results. "It's important for women to figure out their comfort zones," she said.
Moderation and common sense rule. "A more introverted woman might want to reconsider competing with the extroverts at big parties or happy hours, and instead try out her signaling on a solitary man at work or at an art museum. That may be where she'll shine." And find a true match.
When You Don't Starve Yourself
Something to celebrate: real proof that guys don't wish we all looked like runway models. Researchers at the University of Texas at Austin showed men — from twenty-somethings to octogenarians — several line drawings of female body types. When they were asked to pick the most attractive, their across-the-board first choice was (sorry to annoy all you naturally waif-y types!) the curvy, medium-weight figure. To Devendra Singh, the psychologist who ran the study, these findings jibed with the basic tenet of evolutionary psychology: We are driven by ancient instincts to survive and reproduce. Subconsciously, men know that our curves signal health, youth and fertility. They're worth keeping!
When You're … Ovulating
Psst — here's a poker chip you already have in your pocket but might not know about: When you ovulate (generally two weeks after your period starts), you're particularly sexy to men. In one study, researchers at the University of Texas at Austin asked female volunteers to wear the same T-shirt three nights in a row while they were ovulating. They were then asked to wear another T-shirt for three nights in a row during their nonfertile phase. Men who were asked to sniff the shirts overwhelmingly preferred the ones worn during ovulation, without knowing why. Other research backs up these findings. Why? Evidence shows that estrogen, which surges just before ovulation, plumps skin and lips and promotes a healthy glow; your body is signaling it's baby-making time.
Pincott goes so far as to suggest wearing more makeup when you're in the nonfertile, and thus less attractive, part of your cycle — but to me, this smacks of trying too hard. I asked her how she really incorporates all this data into her life. "Knowledge is power," she told me. "It's not something you need to take too seriously, but seeing your relationships through an evolutionary lens can demystify a lot of what goes on. When you have insight, confidence follows — and nothing's sexier than confidence."
When You're the Woman He Loves
Once you've grabbed a good man's attention with all that confidence, how do you hold it for the long haul? What most stuck with me from Pincott's book wasn't another tip or trick, but a study that confirmed what my inner romantic has always believed. Researchers showed the same set of photographs to volunteers who knew the subjects pictured and then to volunteers who didn't. Both groups were asked to rate the attractiveness of the people in the portraits. And guess what happened? The viewers who knew and liked the subjects simply found them better-looking. In short, the study proved that the more we know, like and respect someone, the more physically attractive that person becomes to us. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and so is heat: The more your man loves you, the sexier you are to him. The long haul will take care of itself.
My opinion about Mel in the story is that, he was kind of aware of that his marriage with Terry was not working very well, and that it was only superficial. So unconsciously, he was waiting for a moment to express himself, and this meeting was the perfect excuse for him to really open up and talk about his real feelings about his new relationship, and the forbidden subject of love. Plus, he uses alcohol as a liberating element that makes him brave enough to express his true opinions about love. Alcohol encouraged him to speak his mind, and be realistic about love, which none of the other were able or willing to do. Also, I think he is angry with himself and angry with the old couple because he hasn’t experienced that kind of love, true love. The kind of love that the old man, in despite his injuries and pain, felt for the old woman, and made him frustrated when he couldn´t see her. The kind of love in which you would die for someone or kill someone, just like the kind of love Ed felt for Terry, and drove him crazy. So Mel is angry because he doesn´t have that, or doesn’t want to admit that he, in fact, had loved Marjorie, but because he was hurt from that first relationship, he is in denial and has become cold when talking about true love. Also, I think at the end of the story, everybody realized that what they have is not real love or permanent love, but none of them in brave enough to say something, because that might endangered their relationship with their husbands and wives; none of them, except for Mel.
To the people who are in love and to the people who aren't.
To the people who are looking for love and to the people who cant find it. What is it exactly that we are looking for when we think about love or when we talk about it? If you have it, what is it like? Or are you sure it is love at all. Is it that story book love, or the love that society accepts? How about that crazy love that everyone just read about. Is my love the same as your love. Is your love the same as his or her love. It's that same feeling that makes you feel incredibly powerful but so very vulnerable at the same time. A contridictory feeling perhaps. The times where it feels so right but at the same time so wrong. A spur of the moment or a long term commitment. Love this or Love that. Loving life, Loving another person, Loving God. Love is probably the worse drug out there. You are feel so damn high when you are in it and then when that breakup occurs it becomes the worst withdrawal. Hell one thing is for sure, love makes some good music whether inlove or a breakup. Pshhh Love eh!!! Crazy stuff.
so i've been flipping my hair, licking my lips, and arching my back in math class to attract this cute boy. i'll let you know if i get a number...ha.
p.s. i love this song
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4xmxb9K8RI
p.p.s. i like that analogy anthony...love=drug
its a lack of excitement
there is no attraction
emotionless
like a one-night stand
to be the other woman
such passion
everything
meaningliss bliss
do you love me
can we just love
anyone
everyone
loving spirituality
embracing the movement
the possibilities within
love yourself in a new way
i want to be as one forever
i want to pursue forever
which is stronger better
there will always be a
pursuit but there will also
always be a one
i think about all of them
like trophies won pursuing
the desire to take or just
to do what is wrongful lust
kaash bana ne wale ne hamara dil....
sheeshe ka banaya hota
kam se kam torne wale ke hath main zakham to aya hota
brokeback mountain was such a sad movie!! do you think it was love or lust??
I personally liked the movie. It wasn´t exactly about homosexuality. It was more about how two soul mates found each other in life. The fact that they both were in male bodies doesn´t mean that they couldn´t feel love. After all, who are we judge what they did or felt. They both completed each other; just like the story in Ackerman essay tell us. These two guys knew that his love was forbidden, but by no means, wrong.
Brokeback was a good movie. I think the director still could have gotten her point across without the film being so graphic or violent. Using simple before and after scenes with fading out and in would have been suffice. Also as far as intimacy, sure the two men were passionate but I don't understand why they would slam each other against the walls to make out???
We are all a beautiful idea
and a dreadful plot
encased in flesh
yearning
to be
understood,
wealthy,
and most importantly
accepted.
Amna that verse in Urdu is beautiful. For those who do not know the language, here is the translation:
I wish the maker had made my heart of glass
So that the one who kroke it would at least suffer a wound.
Great thoughts on Brokeback. And thank you Victor, Amna, and Anthony for recognizing the power of love behind the taboo.
Perhaps I'll get yelled out of here for being so cynical, but it has occured to me that the conception an "ideal love" somewhere in the universe has two roots. The first is that love is such a powerful emotion that, if you have in your life only known one love, than you are likely to swear beyond a question that this your first love is your perfect match.
Alternatively, if you have known more than one love in your life than perhaps that concept of a single perfect companion helps to deal with the painful dissolution of previous loves.
All lovers fall into one of these two groups, and each group would have reason to be inclined toward the belief in a "one true love."
You know you are in love
when you see the world in her eyes,
and her eyes everywhere in the world.
- David Levesque -
i agree with anthony, love is just like drugs, that is why they say don't make someone your everything, because once they're gone, you have nothing, its like they take a piece of your heart with them and you start to feel incomplete.Love does exist. It is a wonderful and dramatic experience. ♥ feebs
This song is by Lyfe Jennings and watch the video too, its really nice...it defines love and what it's like to be in it....
"Must be nice
Having someone who understands the life you live
Must be nice
Having someone who's slow to take and quick to give
Must be nice
Having someone who sticks around when the rough times get thick
someone who's smile is bright enough to make the projects feel like a mansion
Must be nice
Having someone who loves you despite your faults
Must be nice
Having someone who talks the talk but also walks the walk
Must be nice
Having someone who understands that a thug has feelings too
someone who loves you for sho'
you just remember to never let 'em go
Chorus:
Even when your hustling days are gone
She'll be by your side still holding on/Even when those 20's stop spinning
and all those gold-digging women disappear
she'll still be here
2nd Verse:
Must be nice
Having someone you can come home to from a long day of work
Must be nice
Having someone you don't have to show they know exactly where it hurts
Must be nice
Having someone who trusts you despite what they've heard
Someone as mighty as a lion but still as gentle as a bluebird
Must be nice
Having someone you don't have to tell you don't want to be alone
Must be nice
Having someone you can grow old with until God calls ya'll home
Must be nice
Having someone who understands that a thug has feelings too
someone who loves you for sho'
you just remember to never let 'em go"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ZWxyQCpD4U
I listened to the song and watched its video. Febe is right, the song really defines love, and I found the lyrics really good.
Love is a strange thing. It can be the most amazing feeling in the world, or it can really hurt, but in the end love is something most, if not all of us, will have to face. While there are many different ways to define love and there are many different ways to love someone (even yourself). I hope nobody gets their heart broken.
Hesham, I agree with a lot of the things you're saying but I believe that getting your heartbroken is important. There are many lessons you can learn and I think it's way better to have love and lost than to not have loved at all. The bad stuff is what makes the good stuff so amazing. Without challenges we wouldn't appreciate all the good times.
Thank u Amna, u r right too. I was talking with my friend the other day and he said some interesting stuff about love. He had just broke up with his girlfriend and i asked him what does he think about. He said, "Love is a bitch, don't every think about it". I realized that every person thinks differently about love and it depends on their experience. Also, every person got a different definition for love, and he or she will either hate or like love depending on their experience and how much their experience gets close to their defintion.
I am almost done with the love unit, and i have did a lot of research on love. At the end I came to a conclusion that is love is a myth and I found only one thing that I can really call love. Love = Meena Nayal
I feel that Love is a connection shared between living things. As long as that Love is never actually severed emotionally, it can outlast any amount of distance and time. I can't help but smile at this amazing story which proves that Love can be forever.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=btuxO-C2IzE
Don't find love, let love find you. That's why it's
called falling in love, because you don't force
yourself to fall, you just fall.
~ Unknown ~
Love, true love, is that which can give the most
without asking or demanding anything in return.
~ Mazie Hammond ~
Just because you know someone doesn't mean you love them,
and just because you don't know people doesn't mean you can't
love them. You can fall in love with a complete stranger in a
heartbeat, if God planned that route for you. So open your heart
to strangers more often. You never know when God will throw
that pass at you.
~ Heather Grove ~
One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life:
That word is love.
~ Sophocles ~
love is like this...
http://packphour.files.wordpress.com/2007/12/love-is-good.png
...sometimes
when i'm bored sometimes, i like to look up quotes from a few famous figures...one of my favorites is Oscar WIlde...i feel like he really relates to people in his remarks. i stumbled upon one which was so similar to raymond carvers story, i just had to share it...
When a woman marries again, it is because she detested her first husband. When a man marries again, it is because he adored his first wife. Women try their luck; men risk theirs.
Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray, 1891
is that not the exact same scenario as terri&ed, mel & marjorie? it makes you think that this type of thing happens all the time...so make sure when you marry someone..you get him first :)
Women love us for our defects. If we have enough of them, they will forgive us everything, even our intellects.
Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray, 1891that related to terri and ed...why she defended him for so long even though he seriously had issues is beyond most people...however many of us do love people with defects, major or not, and we begin to love their imperfections do we not?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=md2CW4qp9e8&feature=related
the christian the lion video with the whitney houston song. no offense baden, but this song is so much more fitting :)
Love is a gift, not an obligation, follow your heart and always trust the person you love.
Anonymous
Truly loving another means letting go of all expectations. It means full acceptance, even celebration of another's personhood.
Karen Casey
Truly loving another means letting go of all expectations. It means full acceptance, even celebration of another's personhood.
Karen Casey
Honesty is the only way with anyone, when you'll be so close as to be living inside each other's skins.
Lois McMaster Bujold
You'll discover that real love is millions of miles past falling in love with anyone or anything. When you make that one effort to feel compassion instead of blame or self-blame, the heart opens again and continues opening.
Sara Paddison
The greatest thing you'll ever learn
Is to love and be loved in return.
~ From "Unforgettable with Love" by Natalie Cole
Some love quotes:
"The best thing about loving and being hurt is that you get to know what true love really is. For as gold is tested in fire, and so will love be perfected in pain."
Marvin Jay M. Torres
"True love is when you've been able to ride on the bumpy sea of problems, glide on the stormy sea of fights, and still love each other with every ounce of your heart."
Source Unknown
Love is essential to life. If you don't have love, you don't have anything.Love gives you the strength to go on with your life. So let love be one of your goals in life.
I think that in some cases, love can be can be portrayed to show a different kind of love than the one between a man and a woman. Love can come in all different forms. I think this song portrays it well.
(Not to mention that I like the song too)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJpyskHMwRs
"Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own."
-Robert Heinlein
"It's so easy, To think about Love, To Talk about Love, To wish for Love, But it's not always easy, To recognize Love, Even when we hold it.... In our hands."
-Jaka
"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart."
-Helen Keller
I feel that love is a very sacred and important experience that everyone goes through. Its the one thing that can both be brought to you and taken away from you. It can help bring you new, happier experiences but can also create sad, painful experiences too. The worst feeling is when your far from the person your in love with and can only see them for short periods of time. I think this music video is a way to see it. I know that you'll like the song.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-TPeR8Aq6BQ
Take A Bow by Rihanna
Oh, how about a round of applause?
Yeah, standing ovation? Ooh, oh yeah
Yeah y-yeah yeah
You look so dumb right now
Standing outside my house
Trying to apologize
You?re so ugly when you cry
Please, just cut it out
Don?t tell me you?re sorry 'cause you?re not
And baby when I know you?re only sorry you got caught
But you put on quite a show, really had me going
But now it?s time to go, curtain?s finally closing
That was quite a show, very entertaining
But it?s over now
(But it?s over now)
Go on and take a bow
Grab your clothes and get gone
You better hurry up before the sprinklers come on
Talking? 'bout, ?Girl, I love you," "You?re the one"
This just looks like a rerun
Please, what else is on?
Don?t tell me you?re sorry 'cause you?re not
And baby when I know you?re only sorry you got caught
But you put on quite a show, really had me going
But now it?s time to go, curtain?s finally closing
That was quite a show, very entertaining
But it?s over now
(But it?s over now)
Go on and take a bow
Oh, and the award for the best liar goes to you
(Goes to you)
For making me believe that you could be faithful to me
Let's hear your speech out
How about a round of applause?
A standing ovation?
But you put on quite a show, really had me going
Now it?s time to go, curtain?s finally closing
That was quite a show, very entertaining
But it?s over now
(But it?s over now)
Go on and take a bow
But it's over now
http://www.devmorgan.com/sandbox/lovepoem.png
The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love someone else.
Anonymous
If you love me, let me know. If not, please gently let me go.
Anonymous
As we grow older together, As we continue to change with age, There is one thing that will never change. . . I will always keep falling in love with you.
Karen Clodfelder
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All types of animals love!!!
http://i260.photobucket.com/albums/ii15/Doctor-Salar/love-5.jpg
Previous comment didn't show the picture. Here's the link.
Oh no forgot to put my name. The previous comment from partygrl87MAB was from me Masumi
60 things girls need to know about guys
1. Guys hate sluts even though they have sex with them!
2. "Hey, are you busy?" or "Are you doing something?" ~ two phrases guys open with to stop from stammering on the phone.
3. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.
4. Before they call, guys try to plan out a little about what they're going to say so there aren't awkward pauses, but once he's on the phone he forgets it all and makes it up as he goes.
5. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile when they’re attracted to them
6. Guys will do anything just to get you to notice him.
7. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. Unless they're going for the let-her-complain-to-you-and-then-have-her-realize-how-wonderful-and-nice-you-are method.
8. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.
9. Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they're still loved.
10. Don't talk about your guy friends to your boyfriend.
11. Guys get jealous easily.
12. Guys are more emotional than they'd like people to think.
13. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...never mind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he'll assume he did something wrong and he'll obsess about it trying to figure it out.
14. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
15. Guys hate asking parents for money to buy girls presents. So they come up with ideas like saving their lunch money for a week. But it never works because guys are always hungry so they end up asking the parents for money anyway.
16. Girls are guys' weaknesses.
17. Guys are very open about themselves.
18. It's good to test a guy first before you trust him. But don't let him wait too long.
19. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.
20. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.
21. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
22. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.
23. Guys will brag about anything.
24. Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. We rarely use beautiful. If a guy uses that, he likes you a whole hell of a lot.
25. Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn't notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.
26. Guys seek for advice from girls not other guys. Because most guys think alike, so if one guy's confused, then we're all confused.
27. Any guy could write out a rulebook or advice book for flirting, but no guy can write out a book about relationships.
28. Try to be as straightforward as possible.
29. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he's
too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won't be mature and grown up.
30. If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with the girl.
31. No matter how much guys talk about asses and boobs, personality is key.
32. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
33. Guys worry about the thin line between being compassionate and being whipped.
34. If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he's probably faking it and is spazzing inside.
35. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that.
36. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."
37. Guys don't really have final decisions.
38. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn't happen that often, so when it does, you know something's up.
39. If your best guy friend seems to avoid you or is never around when you're with your boyfriend, he's probably jealous and likes you.
40. When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he's definitely thinking something.
41. Guys like femininity not feebleness.
42. Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.
43. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.
44. Don't be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.
45. Everything in moderation. Put on makeup, wear perfume. Just not too much.
46. Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.
47. Guys hate rejection, but they hate being led on even more.
48. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them.
49. A guy would give his left nut to be able to read a girl's mind for a day.
50. No guy can handle all his problems on his own. He's just too stubborn to admit it.
51. Not all guys are assholes. Just because ONE is a jackass doesn’t mean he represents ALL of us.
52. We don't like girls who are too skinny.
53. We love it when girls talk about there ass.
54. Always make sure you know what kind of stuff your getting into before making out with a guy , like whether it's a one time deal or not .
55. Believe it or not shy guys are the most easiest to talk to. It may not seem right but trust me they will start opening up like books after you just ask them questions about their lives and unnoticeable tell them about yours.
56. When a guy hits your butt it means that he wants you sexually.
57. Even if they refuse it all guys are ticklish on the ribs.
58. Guys love neck rubs and if he lets you keep doing it, it means that he really likes you or his neck really hurts.
59. Guys will test the waters to see how far they can get with you. Even if he doesn't intend to it will happen. Know how far it is you want to let him go and he will respect that after you let him know a couple times.
60. When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible.
Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.
-Anais Nin
one of my favorite love videos is What hurts the most by rascal flatts!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h8iWEktQhg0
http://imagecache2.allposters.com/images/pic/NIM/PL126~Kids-kissing-Posters.jpg
my favorite picture!
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